In the South, I would say most men still remember how to hold a door open for a lady. In SoCal, I know ONE person (my age) who does so consistently—my friend Trent. He is always a gentleman and just one of the best people I know. It’s sad how people have forgotten their manners. I mean, even though gentlemanly behavior doesn’t always equate to a gentleman, holding the door open for a lady still goes a long way. I don’t care what any feminist has to say about that—men should hold the door open for ladies.
I remember having breakfast with one of my mentors one day, and he said to me what he tells his daughter, “If you always walk ahead of them, how will they ever be able to hold the door open for you?” So from that point on, I always give guys the opportunity to open the door and hold it open for me, but most of them don’t. And yes, I quietly judge them. Actually, I know one other person who holds the door open—my Spanish professor. Oh, and my Entertainment Law professor, who is English. But I’m mostly concerned with my generation—Generation Y, also known as The Millennial Generation, also known as a bunch of narcissists.
I think it’s a crying shame when parents don’t teach their boys little things like this. My brother doesn’t hold the door open for me, but I sure hope he does for his girlfriends and female friends.
To be fair to men though, it's not all their fault. Somehow some women got it in their heads that certain things like letting a man hold the door open for you equates to chauvinistic machismo, and you being weak, or helpless, or something. I don't think that's true at all. But now some men think we don't want chivalry at all.
You know, there was a time when lack of gentlemanly behavior didn’t faze me, but these days I feel a bit of disappointment in society, every time a guy does not hold open the door for me.
Prissy? Maybe. Manners? Non-negotiable.
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