I went to Shabbat service at the Wilshire Boulevard Temple as part of an educational "field trip" for the Ecumenical & Inter-Religious Studies course I'm taking. We learned about Judaism and Catholic-Jewish relations, and it was such a revelation. I had been to temple once before, back when I was thirteen for a friend's Bat-mitzvah, but I don't remember what it was like. My mom remembers it being long, and she was right. Our Catholic mass is 1 hour long, this service we were at was two and a half hours! Although, that's also because there were two bat-mitzvahs at this service.
When the Time's Up Legal Fund was announced, I felt a fire in my heart. It was like a light finally shining through at the end of the tunnel, because after #MeToo, I wondered what we do now to actually affect positive change. We've broken the silence, so what's next? Seeing Hollywood use its platform and microphone to start the change made me really proud, because it's important that any person or organization of influence use that power to create positive change.
Some people have become savvy to asking, “Where are you from?” and now lead off their question with “You’re not a typical…white American, so [what are you/what is your background/etc.” What am I? I am a human being, though I wish I was a unicorn so that I could fart rainbows and poop cotton candy. What is my background? I guess it depends where I’m sitting or standing.
One busy afternoon, I was rushing on foot down Wilshire Blvd in Beverly Hills, from the office to the bank a few blocks down, trying to get to it before it closed. At some point some guys driving by hollered at me, and another guy walking in my direction asked me in surprise if those guys just hooted at me. It was like he was so surprised to witness such a display of behavior. I was surprised by his surprise, but I did not have time to waste, so I quickly responded with, “Oh, I don’t know, I’ve learned to ignore it.”
I recently decided to sign up for a certification course on Ecumenical and Inter-Religious Studies. I didn’t know what Ecumenical meant until my first class, and I can still barely pronounce it, but even after just the first class, I feel a sense of great hope for the world. Hopefully I’m not just overexcited.
There's a notion that successful people hang out with other successful people. I believe that applies to happy people, too. Of course, that doesn't mean we can't ever be sad. It's just that sometimes in life we come across people who may be perfectly lovely people, but they leave you feeling absolutely drained after each encounter. We call these people energy vampires, because they suck the living joy out of you.
Today, I was blown away by how blown away a group of kids between the ages of four and eight were when I told them boys can do ballet, too.
My husband once said to me, "You know, everything you're saying and a lot of what you believe goes against the Catholic Church." I was quick to respond, "Maybe some of the PEOPLE of the church, sure, but NOT the Catholic faith." Where we have seen the church fail, we have seen man fail, not God. All I know is that I am here to love and be love, and that is the basis of Catholicism...or at least how I have learned and understood it.
That is the question. To ensure that we're all on the same page, ghosting is when you intentionally disappear from someone's life--stop answering texts, calls, emails, and any other form of communication. This also includes blocking people on social media platforms. It's not always an easy decision to make, nor one that I ever really want to make, but sometimes you just have to. I learned that there are times, especially as a woman, you just have to look out for yourself. So when is it appropriate to ghost someone or how do you know when ghosting is the best response? I have had this discussion with several friends, male and female, and if you find yourself wondering if you should ghost someone or not, here are a few examples of when is probably an appropriate situation for ghosting. (It's important to note that I am speaking from a female perspective because I am a woman, but the reverse also applies for men in similar situations.)
Pink. Pink was everything that mattered tonight. When she accepted her Michael Jackson Vanguard Award, and told us about her six-year old daughter telling her that she is the ugliest girl she knows, because she looks like a boy with long hair I was done for the night and could turn off the TV. Nothing else mattered. First of all, every time the camera panned over to her daughter, all I thought was o my gosh how cute is she. How anyone could tell this six-year old she is ugly is incomprehensible--hearing that was like knives through my own heart. More importantly, Pink's words were so on point, and a powerful statement for her daughter to hear and to hear her mother say that in front of millions. It was a powerful statement for all kids to hear. I actually teared up a little, partly because of the cruelty that exists, and also because Pink's words just moved right through me.
Thank you, Pink. Thank you for being you. May we all open our hearts to see more beauty.
BIG LOVE & HUGS