Some people could stay in one place and never leave, and some people are always leaving to go somewhere else.
I was having a conversation with someone, and he asked me why I want to go back to Nashville right away. Why not build a career in L.A. first? As we went back and forth about this, he asked me if Nashville was my comfort zone. That bothered me at first, because I’ve always prided myself on doing things that scare me and stepping out of my comfort zone--being too comfortable actually makes me quite uncomfortable...unless we're talking clothes and beds. And there's a difference between being comfortable, and being in your comfort zone.
As I thought about it though, I couldn’t help but wonder…is Nashville my comfort zone? I had never thought of it that way, because I think it’s an odd thought, actually. I mean, Nashville has only been in my life the last two years. Of course, before then, I had dreamed of going to Nashville, but back then I didn’t even know in what capacity—just to visit most likely. Before law school, I never thought about moving to Nashville. Well, except when I applied to Vanderbilt for undergrad, I suppose.
Then I thought, other than my love for the music, the great abundance of music, the culture behind the music, and the music industry there, is it just because I’m always trying to leave or go somewhere else? I couldn’t wait to leave for college—I never threw a “goodbye” party like everyone else did, or shed a tear when it came time to go. After college, I was so desperate not to go home, and against my better judgment I moved to San Francisco with my then boyfriend. Unforeseen circumstances called me home, and I decided with my better judgment to stay home for the duration of law school. But as soon as the calm settled back in, I was itching to go somewhere again. I guess I’m just always itching for a good adventure.
Either way, the more I thought about it, the more I reassured myself that Nashville is not my comfort zone. In fact, it’s far from it. After all, it’s really difficult for me to be some place I can’t easily get a good salad…ha.
Anyhow, the point of this was to say that it’s extremely important to leave what you’ve always known, to at least explore what’s out there. Then if you’re meant to live and die in the same zip code you were born in, you’ll know. At the same time though, if you’re always leaving, you may find yourself very lonely one day. Unless of course, you or your spouse is in the army that requires you to move around every few years.
So, balance. It’s all about balance, isn’t it?
BIG LOVE & HUGS