I posted a status on Facebook that read “Today is International Women's day.....so, GO MAKE ME A SANDWICH......AND A PIE!!!! :D” Apparently, most guys didn’t think it was that funny, ‘cause of all the people who liked it, only ONE guy did. Go figure!
All joking aside, I made a pledge earlier this year to blog on this day—International Women’s Day—a holiday not traditionally celebrated or even acknowledged here in the U.S.of.A.; but, what the hey.
I never really started appreciating just how important it is for me, for any girl, to have really good girlfriends. Don’t get me wrong, it’s not that I didn’t appreciate my girlfriends, I just didn’t realize the true value of things like “girl talk.” I didn’t realize this until I found myself in a nightmare I never thought was possible—not to me, not to someone like me.
When I realized one of the only ways I was going to free myself of this nightmare, was to talk about it, and be open and honest about it with at least my closest friends and family, I called up my closest girlfriends. I started with the girls I grew up with, and for the first time in our 15-22 years of knowing each other and being friends, I let down my walls and let them see me in my weakest state.
Now when I think back on that time, I’m surprised that I was surprised by their reaction. They didn’t feed me B.S. They didn’t just tell me that, “everything is going to be okay.” They just listened without judging. And they didn’t suddenly treat me differently, or like I was fragile in anyway. All they did was just love me while I figured my way through completely removing myself from the nightmare. But, I shouldn’t have been surprised, because that support system was always there. My girlfriends were a big piece of the mirror constantly reminding me that I had nothing to be afraid of and that I knew I was going to make it through everything.
I’m very blessed to have grown up in a family where the women are all independently strong. As my aunt once said, “The women in our family have a tendency to love our independence too much.” It makes for fiery head-butting at times, and perhaps in some ways it has also made me a little “too” independent. What my girlfriends taught me is that it’s okay to lean on each other from time to time, especially when we need to. In fact, we need to be able to lean on one another, because the truth is “men are from Mars, and women are from Venus.” And the truth is, the world doesn’t play fairly. So, women need to stand up for one another, and stand together; and men need to not be afraid to stand with us, because we're always there with you.