A good friend of mine and I were having coffee the other day, and I love talking to her, because she's a therapist--well, technically she's not yet a licensed therapist, but she almost is--and so when I'm in need of it she responds with therapist answers, plus the advice and opinions she's not allowed to give in real therapy sessions. So I get the benefit of the therapist and the benefit of the good friend all wrapped in one lovely angel. And as my good friend, she sometimes goes beyond that and she'll actually tell me, "I want you to do this." It's really quite fabulous.
In any case, we were talking about some of our really good guy friends, and how they've seen us in our worst and brattiest states; yet, they somehow still love us. And we love them and their imperfections. There's no judgment amongst us. If someone does or says something wrong or questionable, we just say, "Dude, that was shitty" or "You were definitely in the wrong there." Or something like that. But it never changes our love for each other, except that we might love each other more for being human.
So then she said something that was just pure brilliance. She said, "You should let your friends be your standards." Your really good friends treat you a certain way, and your partner should treat you better. I just thought, wow that is brilliant. I'm so using that. Because, some of us girls have been told to keep our head high, our standards high, and our heels higher. But what constitutes "high," because everyone's version of high is different? Now we all have a way to measure that.
BIG LOVE & HUGS