On the first day of orientation, before law school started, one of the deans told us to go home and tell our family and friends that there will be birthdays missed, family outings skipped, and girls nights passed on. While there is some truth to this, my stubborn ass refuses to skip family birthdays and other important events and holidays—unless there is just no realistic way for me to attend something. I try really hard not to be absent at important events, because I want my loved ones to always know that I love them; and there is even a method to my absence ;). I do my best to play fair with everyone—it’s just in my nature…and my name (Justine comes from the word “justice”). It’s funny that I wound up in law school…no?
So for all of you on your own crazy train, it is completely possible to maintain balance; you just have to find what works best for you. Of course, every now and then the scale will tip one way or the other, but all you do is tip it back the other way ;). It’s not so hard when you know your priorities and know how to adjust to and move with the course of events—planned or unplanned—though there may be times when you’ll realize that you’ve spread yourself too thin and want to pull all your hair out; but that’s okay—just give yourself a moment to reprioritize.
Obviously, school and work are two big priorities for me; but going to church every Sunday is too, and so is spending time with my family and friends (especially the ones who are basically like family). Unfortunately, I can’t commit to everything every week. Thus, there are weeks when I skip church to have lunch with my grammy, because I know I can’t get all my work done if I do both. I think God can forgive me for that 0:). I always make sure to mark down and be at important events. For example, I am 100% committed to my dinner club when I’m back home, so I know that once a month, I reserve a night to wine and dine with some of the finest folks I grew up with. My dinner club matters to me, because the people in dinner club matter to me. Two of the dinner club members went to every show and play I ever did. They are incredible! If someone has time for me, I have time for them--it's a treat people how you wish to be treated thing. It's a respect thing. And it's a love thing. I can't stand flakes--I find them completely and intolerably disrespectful. Everything else is quite flexible, IF I plan well and stay on top of things. So, I can squeeze in a movie night with my sisters from other misters every now and then, even though sometimes it feels like forever in between each movie night. And then I always make myself as available as possible for emergencies—whether it’s a girlfriend crying on the phone from across the country, or someone becoming ill and needing a family member or friend—such is life, shit happens. Quality family and friends time simply enriches your life and makes everything worthwhile. It is also much needed for your own sanity and well-being.
Don’t ever become too big or too busy for the people who love you. It really just comes down to this: love is a two way street—the ones who love you know and understand that you will never leave them standing in the dust, as they will never do that to you. If something is important to you, you will make it happen.
BIG LOVE & BIG HUGS
P.S. To my family and friends reading this post, in case I haven't said it to you recently, I love you the BIGGEST <3.