People always talk about lust vs. love. Is it just lust, or is it possibly love? This question is like asking, Beatles or Stones? Why must I pick one or the other? Why can’t I love both bands? Why can we not love and lust in one?
You see, I believe that in love there is lust—though not the other way around. There isn’t always love in lust. However, every loving romantic relationship should contain that intense, passionate desire for the other—that desire that we sometimes call lust. If that fiery attraction is not there, then there’s an incredible ingredient missing, isn’t there?
By separating the two, it’s like we’re saying that you can’t have true love if you’re lusting after someone. When really, the simultaneous existence of love and lust is part of what sets friendship on fire and takes it to the next level. Isn’t it? Isn’t that what we’re told love is? Love is friendship on fire.
But lust in love goes beyond that burning sexual attraction. Lust in love is greater than that. It's all that heat plus the all-consuming desire just to be with that person in every form. That's what sets it apart from "just lust."
BIG LOVE & BIG HUGS. May you always love BIG and love deeply.