“Real friends tell each other how they really feel—whether you’re talking about what you’re wearing, or who you’re wearing.” That’s what I told my friend. Besides, if you can’t be honest with your friends, then with whom can you be honest? And if you’re not being honest, then you’re not being yourself—and with whom else can you be yourself if not your friends?
In this particular situation, we were referring to someone, who one of our other dear friends has been trying on lately. It was immediately apparent that none of us were very happy about this new outfit, and we didn’t hide it.
Then that got me thinking…you know, there are movies and stories about a person who falls for someone that his/her family and friends don’t like. But that person does the “romantic” thing and says something like, “I don’t care what my friends or family say—I love you, and nothing is going to change that.”
I definitely know being a stubborn-ass like that, and I think that type of thing occurs in two kinds of situations. Either, out of some sort of rebellion; or, out of choosing to be blind in a dream. No matter, I got to thinking, and I thought why would anyone ever want to be with someone his/her family and friends detested? In fiction, sure, that couple may end up happily ever after. In reality though, I imagine you’d be happy for a little while, and then you’d find yourself alone and stuck with that person and only that person. And one day, you’ll wake and realize how alone you really are.
So, even though we are all bound to make silly choices like being with someone who we know is bad for us, we need people around us who tell us no when we want to hear yes. We need people who act as our mirrors when we’re too afraid to look in the mirror. We need friends who will tell it to us straight. That way, even when we don’t want to listen, we at least have their voices in the backs of our minds, looking out for us in case we decide to finally listen...or just in case we prove our friends and family wrong. It's just good to have people in your life who really care about YOU.
Treasure these mirrors in your life, because I’m willing to be there aren’t many. I know I’m grateful for mine.
BIG LOVE & HUGS