My aunt often says, "We Chang women have a tendency to fall quickly and deeply in love." Of course, like everything in life, that comes with its good and bad. But recently I've been thinking is it possible to fall too quickly in love, or is that something we just tell ourselves to protect ourselves…for as long as possible anyway?
People always tell us it's too early to say "I love you," or too early to be in love, too early to get married, and yadda yadda yadda. I have friends who have gotten married after knowing each other for 3 months and they've been married for 10 years and have a beautiful family. I also have friends who have been dating for 10 years and are in no rush to walk down the aisle.
Recently while taking a Saturday morning stroll around the park with a long time friend, I was catching her up on the new love in my life, and as I was trying to buffer my "crazy" with a little bit of sensibility by telling her "I know it's early…" and "I know it's a bit fast…" she delightfully astonished me with her response. I told her I couldn't help myself. Love has never felt so natural and easy coming to me--and I mean NEVER--so I'm learning to just accept it and let myself fall freely without getting carried away. And with enthusiasm she said, "Yes, I think that's exactly what you should do--just let yourself feel love." Something in the way she said it comforted me greatly. It made me wonder, why do we worry so much about timing when we don't even know what is an appropriate time to fall in love? That's like as terrible trying to define "normal."
In the end I think it comes down to what feels right and natural to each person/pair, and knowing the difference between quickness and haste. To be quick and to be hasty is the difference between love and lust. And of course, sometimes it takes a few times before you figure it out.
The problem we cause ourselves is that we over think love. Sometimes you float like a feather to it, and other times it feels like diving off a cliff into the sea. And right now I am swimming in the most luscious of seas.
BIG LOVE & HUGS