I arrived early to a board meeting this afternoon, and got to talking to the artistic director about my new program T.A.L.K. She mentioned someone she knows, who is doing the same thing, but incorporating drama into it. This woman had the students role-play fairytales, and in one scenario had girls role-play the ugly stepsisters and Cinderella. The role-playing demonstrated to the students that the stepsisters were bullies in the way they talked to and treated Cinderella. Some people don't even realize how abusive they are, and they act out of a sense of or a desire for power—or the adolescent equivalent of being "cool"—but in reality, they're creating a really ugly image of themselves. Thus, this role-playing proposed the question, would you rather be known as the ugly stepsisters, or Cinderella?
Of course no one wants to be the ugly stepsisters. In my writing and my talks, I’ve always focused on the effects of bullying and abuse. However, I think this ugly stepsisters and Cinderella example makes a great point, and sheds an equally important light. How do you want others to perceive you? Do you really want to be perceived as a nasty, undesirable bully? Once you’ve figured that out, act accordingly. My suggestion, just be the best of the best you that you can be—you’ll be a much happier person, I'm sure ;).
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