Every week I hear him sing joyfully in church and I could not fall more in love. Six months ago, I don’t think even he’d believe that he’d find himself singing along in church. Six months ago, had you told either of us that we’d be happy to wake up early on a Saturday and spend five hours at church, we would have laughed and said “pish-posh.” Well, Chris is still never excited to wake up early, but when it comes to church now, I see the change in him. He sees the change in him. We have found such a positive home and community in our parish, that we both look towards going to church as almost a weekly medicine to help get us through the week. It’s like a workout—sometimes you don’t feel like getting up early to do your workout, but you know you’ll feel awesome afterwards, and you do.
You've shown me incredible pain, only to give me more incredible strength. For this I am grateful. Thank you for blessing me with this beautiful life. I've felt the greatness of your love through my parents, my grandmothers, Chris, my family and friends who've walked with me through rain and sunshine, and even strangers.
When I was lost and alone, you hugged me tightly. When it was dark, I felt your warmth. When I fell the other day, you kissed my head as my father did when I fell from my bicycle when he taught me to ride. I saw your beauty in the dandelion I made a wish on yesterday, I heard it in the words of a stranger, and smelled it in the sea air.
Because of you, I know my heart is unbreakable, because you made it wholly with your love, which is untouchable. Because of you I know I am never alone. Because of you I know not fear.
I pray my mother sleeps peacefully knowing I live with her love. I pray my father sleeps peacefully knowing I live with his wisdom. I pray my brother sleeps peacefully knowing I'll never leave him.
I pray all my loved ones know your love, too. I pray my enemies find peace in their hearts. I pray that those who hunger get bread, and those who have bread feel hunger.
I've learned to live in your time, and throughout my time on earth I will honour your love in what you've so blessed me with. May those who come to me always feel your love, which is my blood.
BIG LOVE & HUGS
As part of marriage preparation many engaged couples who wish to marry in the Catholic Church attend a weekend retreat, where they have the opportunity to think about and discuss things they've not discussed before--perhaps finances, what values and traditions from their respective families they want to bring to their new family, and even discuss issues they had not completely addressed or resolved previously. It's an opportunity to open up like you never have before, and is sort of a foundation building weekend that has you digging deeper into yourselves as individuals, as well as yourselves as a couple, and thus falling deeper in love with your partner. Even when you think you know everything about your partner, you'll learn something new.
As we discussed the Supreme Court’s decision to finally recognize same-sex marriage across the nation during our company’s monthly breakfast, I heard someone joke, “Let them deal with the mounds of divorce papers now, too,” and the first thought to cross my mind in reaction to that statement was, am I the only person who still believes in marriage these days? Am I the only one who still believes in the sanctity of marriage, and a commitment you make for life and eternity?
I’ve come to learn the significance of having a partner who is always on your side. A partner who is always on your side doesn’t tell you you’re always right, but he or she acts in such a way that lets you know you’re not alone, and you’ll never be alone, because you’ll always have that person standing next to you. Having someone always on your side is the glue to trust, because you know that no matter what this person is not going to quit on you, and that this person is there to make you always strive to be a better person.
I've heard mixed opinions about The Mindy Project, but I absolutely love the show and I love Mindy. If she is even half the character she is on her show, I want her to be one of my best friends. I started re-watching season 2 just as a sort of pick me up. I'm not blue right now, but I think with the UCSB tragedy hitting so close to home for me, it's something better than seeing that sick boy's face and name all over the media still. Seriously people, stop printing his name, stop sharing his video, and posting his picture. The more you do that, the more he's now looking up at us and laughing that creepy laugh we've all heard by now, every time you do.
So yes, I turned to Mindy for comfort. She is just such an honest, witty, and confident character--and that's what makes her absolutely BEAUTIFUL. They say beauty lies within the eye of the beholder--or rather, Shakespeare said that--but so do flaws. So own your beauty and own your "flaws." Don't let anyone make you feel less than worthy.
It's incredibly important for us to speak to ourselves in a positive manner, but sometimes we still need a reminder from our friends, or even people we don't know. So, thanks, Mindy, for reminding me of that. You be AWESOME.
BIG LOVE & HUGS
A good friend of mine and I were having coffee the other day, and I love talking to her, because she's a therapist--well, technically she's not yet a licensed therapist, but she almost is--and so when I'm in need of it she responds with therapist answers, plus the advice and opinions she's not allowed to give in real therapy sessions. So I get the benefit of the therapist and the benefit of the good friend all wrapped in one lovely angel. And as my good friend, she sometimes goes beyond that and she'll actually tell me, "I want you to do this." It's really quite fabulous.
My friend teaches elementary school, and she's in a tough district with tough students. One of her kids is completely spastic and cannot sit still for the life of him. So what she does when she wants him to sit still is she goes up to him, looks him straight in the eye, and says, "watermelon." Then like some magic spell that has come over him, he is still with his hands together and the face of an angel.
One of the best pieces of wisdom a friend ever bestowed upon me was that being “ready” is bullshit. We are never ready for anything, we just have to pull up our big girl or big boy panties, and figure it out as we go.
We’re told and taught so many things about relationships—from the songs we listen to, books we read, observing our friends’ relationships, our parents, and even all those silly romantic comedies. We hear things like, relationships take compromise, relationships take work, relationships depend on communication, trust, honesty, etc. And then we fill our heads with all kind of ideals of what we think love looks like, or should look like, but it never happens that way. Well, for some people it might, but love isn’t a one size fits all, is it now?